Comments on: 8 Ways to Help a Friend Who is Grieving

By: Tiffany Zajas

Tiffany Zajas — Fri, 17 Jan 2014 21:15:00 +0000

Amanda, I am so sorry to hear of your struggles and of your loss. Just want to give you a hug right now. Know that you and your husband are in my prayers. Believing that great things are in your future. Miss you! But thankful for the internet so that we can keep in touch. You were always a blessing and encouragement to me as well.

By: Tiffany Zajas

Tiffany Zajas — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:36:00 +0000

Yes! Those are great suggestions. Scripture was one thing that really helped me through. It is so life-giving! And smiling and laughter is important too. Liam made me smile and laugh every day, which helped me to recognize the blessings even in the midst of a storm. I love how God uses the people in our lives to help us. Thanks so much for sharing!

By: Amanda Davis

Amanda Davis — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:36:00 +0000

This is so perfect, my friend! In October, my husband and I also lost a baby through miscarriage after battling infertility for more than 2 years (and then i was hospitalized for horrible kidney stones that same night). I felt like my whole world was coming apart. Thankfully, I had a couple people in my life who did these 8 things for me. Between them and my wonderful husband, I got through it, and we’re back to fertility treatments now. I love reading your blog and keeping up with your growing family through facebook. You’re a blessing to me even hundreds of miles away!

By: Aunt Dolly

Aunt Dolly — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:03:00 +0000

Tiffany, this was beautifully written from your heart! One way I try to help is praying for the right scripture to share. NOT that I need to expound and “preach” on it, just share and it let GOD use HIS Word to minister!
I do find that getting them to smile helps. NOT to forget their grief but so that they will understand, you WILL laugh again. Maybe not tomorrow, but it will happen. It was one of the most important things I did for the boys after losing Rick. Showing them FUN! NOT to take them out of the grief process, but we must also not wallow there. Grief is a PROCESS that takes many steps to come out of. AND it can last for days or years. Things will trigger it again and you have to let it happen, then through prayer, move to the next step. Especially true in the big losses of death.
I love that you touched on some of the other things that cause us grief, like job changes, moving etc.
Love you! Enjoyed your writing!